Had a very fun and interesting talk with some friends from work. I asked if it was stupid of me to want a man who is successful when I myself am not successful. Our conclusion was that it wasn't stupid for me to "want" that, but it would be stupid for me to "expect" that. I have actually thought about this a lot lately. I have always gone after very successful men who have ambition and great goals set for their lives. I want to marry a man who is very ambitious. Most men though who are ambitious and successful, want a woman who is the same way. It's also the same as me wanting a man who's spiritual. If I expect that out of my future husband, then I need to be spiritual as well.
Back in my Young Women years we made a list of what we wanted in our future husbands. I don't think this list should only be used in dating and finding a guy. It needs to also be used to check ourselves off. I am trying every day to become that type of person that I want in a husband. I am setting goals, getting an education, and going to church. I think I need to not be looking for the perfect man. I just need to perfect myself and be ready for when that perfect man comes in to my life.
I'm really grateful for all the time I've had to learn, grow, and mature. I always thought I'd be married by the time I was 20. I look at my life now and thank the Lord every day that I didn't get married at that age. I was so young. I'm still so young and I still have so much to learn. I wasn't appreciating my life as a single woman. I wasn't always having fun cause I was focusing everything on boys. I wasn't working on perfecting myself. Yes it has taken me 5 years to finally realize all of this, but I have learned my lesson. Now all I can do is learn from the past, focus on my present, and welcome the future with open arms. I'm so excited to see what's in store for me.
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